There are certain characteristics of relationships that prove the old maxim of “when you know, you know.” These following traits should be a sign of the connection in your relationship and the effort your girlfriend puts into being the best. After all, you deserve it, as does she. In the ideal relationship, these traits should be an effort at all but merely the result of two people just being themselves.
She laughs at you and you laugh at her.
They say laughter is the best medicine and in a way, it’s true. There are proven effects to laughing: ease of pain, decrease in depression, and chemical reactions in your brain that have a positive outcome. It’s also personal. To get to know someone’s laugh is intimate and infectious. It’s like a constant inside joke between the two of you and it also makes you feel really good to be able to make her laugh.
She doesn’t lie.
Respect is not given but earned, but when it comes to trust, it’s usually given freely. At least in the beginning. As we start out getting to know someone, we begin to trust them, but if that trust is ever broken there is really no turning back. What happens when you break someone’s trust is you plant a seed under the surface; slowly, that seed grows and flowers into a dangerous plant—it pushes you to the edge to where everything becomes questionable. It spreads like a disease to the point that there is no more trust and you’re constantly questioning everything with a jealous tone and hint of anger.
Your friends like when you bring her around.
Friends have the power to see certain things we can’t. Sometimes we are too involved and have our blinders on, but friends don’t. True friends will tell it how it is and usually without remorse since, after all, they’re looking out for your best interest. Therefore, a trait of an amazing girlfriend would be that she gets along with your friends and they actually like her.
Your family loves her.
A mother knows best, right? We don’t have to dive into any theories of Freud here but we can all safely admit that if your family doesn’t like your girlfriend, then she probably is not the one for you. If you plan to take things to the next level at any time, imagine how dreadful those events will be when the room is filled with awkward tension.
You can sit in silence with her.
First dates are always a little awkward because you’re constantly trying to fill the silence with conversation. But when it comes down the road a bit and you’re dating someone, an amazing girlfriend is someone you could sit with in total silence and never have a dull moment. It’s within those silences when you really feel comfortable with someone, as if they’re a part of you in some weird way and already know what you’re thinking so it doesn’t have to constantly said.
She is down for adventures.
There are certain events in a relationship that truly bond two people. Surely you can think of some of the more obvious ones but there are others that are a bit more subtle. Adventure is one of those. An adventure is a great tool for two people to really connect with one another and get to know parts of each other you would never find in daily life. There is romance that comes with camping in the woods, cooking over an open flame, setting up your tent, doing all these things together and by your own two hands.
She is weird.
We’ve all probably heard this quote: “We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”Being normal is overrated. We always end up wanting someone who is unique and strange and fun and interesting. Why color inside the lines when there is so much more room to color outside of them? An amazing girlfriend will leave you feeling inspired and special, and will have qualities that leave imprints in your memory.
You miss her when she’s not around.
If you love her, let her go; if she comes back, she was always yours; if she doesn’t, she never was. The same rule goes for you as well. Let me tell you about the first time I first realized I could truly like someone. I grew up going to summer camp in Wisconsin, quite far from my hometown of St. Louis. When school let out for summer, I would get a week with my friends and then I was off off to camp for the next eight weeks. Sure, it was a little bit of a bummer to miss out on summer with my school friends but it was relatively always the same and camp was just once a year.